Saturday, June 29, 2013


This week's blog is a tough one to write. LOL...I know what I want to say! But I don't want to offend anyone along the way by telling my story and then asking you to participate in what some might consider an uncomfortable challenge.

With that said, on with my story about my body image issues ...

Men and women who suffer from body dysmorphic disorder (BDD) often see themselves in a different light than those around them. They have a skewed perception of themselves.

Oddly enough, my mirror was showing me the men's result, lol!

For years I would look in the mirror and admit to myself that I was overweight. Overweight yes, but never ever called myself fat, chubby was my size and I was content to remain like that for the rest of my life.

Wow, was I in denial! What a shock it was to me to find out from my doctor that I was actually OBESE! And that if I didn't lose weight by exercising and eating healthily, I'd be on medications for the rest of my life.
Along my journey, I went through various mindsets. To begin with, I only planned on losing 5 lbs. just to make my doctor happy. Then as the lbs. started dropping off and I saw a new me in the mirror, I got excited and proud of myself for taking care of my body...something I should have been doing all along.
Luckily, I didn't get caught up in society's hype about womens bodies, how we all need to be skinny & prancing around in bikinis. LOL...there is still part of the old me left inside...the one who enjoys food (and not just the good stuff, the bad stuff calls out to me alot and I answer "yes please") too much to be able to stick to the very rigid health regimen needed. Good grief, is it even possible to get an old saggy body to look young again? If it is, sorry, I'm just not up to proving it right or wrong...but if you try for it, please let me know the results :)

I guess the point I'm trying to make is that no matter what you see in your mirror, it doesn't matter what your body looks like, you have to love yourself enough to do everything you can to make it a healthy body. We come in all shapes and sizes (who wants to look like everyone else, right?)...the best way to honour that body is to have it encasing a hardy healthy core :)
On looking back at my overweight life, I now see that I was making myself feel & look older. Firstly, by the clothes I was wearing...never wore jeans, always chose elastic waists, loose-fitting tops, long dresses/skirts, flat shoes, etc. Secondly, by just shuffling along in life, not realizing that my sore feet and achy knees were due to my weight.
Now that I am healthy, I can use the money I would have been spending on medication on a new smaller wardrobe, a much more enjoyable outcome :)
LOL...I always hated getting my picture taken...for some strange reason, I always looked fat in them...duh, you were Cheryl!!

The purpose of this week's challenge is to explore your views on body image. I am hoping that I'm not the only one who has problems with their mirror.
Below is a body chart I found online. It raised quite a bit of controversy and hateful remarks on it's originating site. I'm hoping none of that happens here. I am not saying any of these bodies are better or worse than others, I am just using them for examples that will be the answers to the challenge questions.

I will give you my scenario before listing the challenge questions ...
Prior to last year, I was #6, but thought I was #5.
Currently, I am mid-way between #5 and #4.
In my dreams I'd love to be a curvy #3 but will be happy to end up a solid average at #4...only thing standing in my way is some stubborn belly fat :)
Note: To my family...please feel free to let me know if I'm still delusional and my body is nowhere near the #s I chose lol.
Now, on to the questions for you (if you feel comfortable answering them):
1. Which # is how you see yourself in the mirror?
2. Do you think it's correct or skewed?
3. Which # would you like to be?
4. Which # do you think society dictates we should be?
As for society, I think it's a tossup between #2 and #8, they seem very similar to me, fit or athletic, I think it's what most women aspire to be these days.

DISCLAIMER: Whenever I use the word DIET in my blog posts I am in no way suggesting that I have invented/discovered some miracle system to lose weight. Whenever I use the word DIET, I am simply substituting a single word to replace the longer phrase EATING HEALTHIER THAN IN THE PAST.


  1. It is as posted Babe,keep at it....good job!

  2. I see myself as a 6 and yes I believe it's close. I would like to be a 5 and I don't care what people think.

  3. Exactly Susie...the only person it should matter to is yourself :)

  4. There are days when I feel like I am a #7 but for the most part I am #6 and would love to be #5... however, I stiffen up and rebel when it is time to work to get there. I say I would love to be #5 but having been stuck on diets since I was 4 years old my rebellious child comes out and sticks out the tongue and stamps the little foot and says: You can't make me.... This is something I have to overcome... and I will after I get my ultrasound and test results back.. if they are bad news I am not even gonna try to lose weight.. I will enjoy the remainder of my life the way I want to... And so I wait for the call to go get my ultrasound.

    1. Weezie, sending good vibes that you get good news from your ultrasound, it's just a shame that you have to wait so long.

  5. 1. Which # is how you see yourself in the mirror? #4 average I would think so.
    2. Do you think it's correct or skewed? I think its safe to say that I am a #4 average, but on my worst days I feel like a #5 but am really not.
    3. Which # would you like to be? I would like to be a cross between #3 and #8 curvy but defined - I wish.
    4. Which # do you think society dictates we should? I think you are right with #2

    I enjoyed this one! Good job.

    1. Desiree ... you are already a #3 :)

    2. yes, maybe the top half, but the bottom needs work!

  6. I'm a 6 and would be happy with the 4 given my age. Ideal I would love to be a 2 which is what I looked like in high school. I think society would pick 1 but 10 years ago I think it was a 0. Scary.

    I understand about the Mirror - I look in the mirror everyday while I am brushing my teeth, doing my hair and I don't look at myself. It's like I am looking through myself.

    Bill and I were talking about this the other day women you get all that plastic surgery and botox must see a different image of themselves in the mirror because they always look better than after all the work they have done to themselves

  7. I agree Pam...age definitely factors into a realistic goal.

    Both Al & I have also wondered about the plastic surgery addicts...their before photo is always better than the after one.